Going through a divorce can be a difficult and emotional experience for children, who may feel insecure, anxious, or angry. One of the challenges that can arise during and after a divorce is co-parenting. It can be difficult for both parents to communicate and make decisions together when it comes to raising the children. Still, it is important to remember that the well-being of your children should be the top priority. Here are some tips and strategies to help support your child during this challenging time:

Mother and daughter talking to one another post divorce
  • Reassure them that both of their parents love them, even if they no longer live together.

  • Explain that the divorce was not the result of anything they did or bad behavior.

  • Even though you and your ex are no longer a couple, it’s important to remember that you are still and will always be parents together. Co-parenting has been shown to help children adjust to their new situation.

  • As much as possible, keep the rules for the two households the same or similar.

  • Avoid talking badly about the other parent to your children, no matter how frustrated or upset you are. Talk to friends/family or seek professional help if you are struggling.

  • Continue parenting your child and settling limits. There are still rules even though they are going through a difficult time. When there are boundaries in place, kids perform better and feel safer.

  • Encourage your child to keep up their routines and visit friends. It’s critical that they feel a sense of continuity and normalcy.

  • Make their teacher(s) aware of the circumstance so they can monitor your children and support them.

  • While some adjustment difficulties are to be expected, if your child exhibits: excessive crying, mood swings, behavior issues, difficulty in school, a change in sleeping or eating patterns, concentration issues, irritability, or social difficulties, you may want to consider having them see a child or adolescent therapist.

    Divorce is unquestionably difficult for both parents and children. However, if children continue to feel loved by both parents, and parents maintain a calm, stable environment, the child will be able to adjust more easily. Over time they will adjust to their parents living apart in separate households.