Going through a divorce can be a difficult and emotional experience for children, who may feel insecure, anxious, or angry. One of the challenges that can arise during and after a divorce is co-parenting. It can be difficult for both parents to communicate and make decisions together when it comes to raising the children. Still, it is important to remember that the well-being of your children should be the top priority. Here are some tips and strategies to help support your child during this challenging time:
Reassure them that both of their parents love them, even if they no longer live together.
Explain that the divorce was not the result of anything they did or bad behavior.
Even though you and your ex are no longer a couple, it’s important to remember that you are still and will always be parents together. Co-parenting has been shown to help children adjust to their new situation.
As much as possible, keep the rules for the two households the same or similar.
Avoid talking badly about the other parent to your children, no matter how frustrated or upset you are. Talk to friends/family or seek professional help if you are struggling.
Continue parenting your child and settling limits. There are still rules even though they are going through a difficult time. When there are boundaries in place, kids perform better and feel safer.
Encourage your child to keep up their routines and visit friends. It’s critical that they feel a sense of continuity and normalcy.
Make their teacher(s) aware of the circumstance so they can monitor your children and support them.
While some adjustment difficulties are to be expected, if your child exhibits: excessive crying, mood swings, behavior issues, difficulty in school, a change in sleeping or eating patterns, concentration issues, irritability, or social difficulties, you may want to consider having them see a child or adolescent therapist.
Divorce is unquestionably difficult for both parents and children. However, if children continue to feel loved by both parents, and parents maintain a calm, stable environment, the child will be able to adjust more easily. Over time they will adjust to their parents living apart in separate households.